I am a self help book addict, there I said it. WOW that feels good!
Here is the problem, I start reading the book and then it gets to the icky part (you know the part where you need to search within yourself) and I close the book… and never open it again. I am always hoping that the book will say do these 3 easy things and then BAM you will be effortlessly awesome. I have not yet found a book like that.
I did find a book that I was actually able to read cover to cover. There was never any icky feeling. The author did not shame you into confessing all the things you should have been doing. There were steps to take (not 3 easy ones, but not too hard) and there were a few ideas given on how to make it tailored to your own needs. All through the book I kept thinking “I can do this!” That book is The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod.
Folks, it’s a game changer!
I picked up the book because morning in my house can be rough. Getting myself up and dressed, then waking both kids, feeding them, dressing them, packing lunches , and leaving the house all before 7:20 am… Well it would be a miracle if I could do it without lose my cool. I had always tried to pack lunches the night before, or wake up earlier, but it never really seemed to help. It never failed that everyday at 7:30 I sat in my car after putting them on the bus and I felt like shit. I thought about how the last thing they would remember was me yelling to hurry up. I couldn’t keep doing it like this, something had to change. So I figured with a title like The Miracle Morning I had to try it.
What happened next
I read the book cover to cover in just 3 days. I loved it. I felt empowered. I was ready to put it into action. The short summary is that Hal created S.A.V.E.R.S. that your should wake up and do each morning. Now this can take anywhere from 10 minutes to 2 hours depending on what you choose to do. But today I want to talk about my favorite of the S.A.V.E.R.S.
A is for Affirmations
Affirmations are my absolute favorite because I feel like I can really fine tune them. I can make my affirmation about anything I feel like I need to work on that day or week or even month. There really aren’t any rules to affirmations, just choose a positive saying that speaks to you or create your own. I usually have a short one that I can repeat to myself throughout the day as needed and I have a longer one that I have been using for a little over a month. I stand in my bathroom and smile at myself in the mirror and say:
I am a good parent. I can be the mother my children need me to be. I can guide them without fear, anger, threats or spanking. I love them with all my being. I will hug them often, tell them I love them, speak with a smile and praise them. I will be a better parent than I was yesterday.
It really is a great ritual that only takes 3 minutes of my morning, but I can feel it working!
Do you have an affirmation that you say daily?